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Reminded that I am old?           we had several family members
                       by Bill Budler             reach out with offers of assis-
                The pandemic has reminded         tance. You kind of expect that                      No FootPrint Too Small
             me several times that I am getting   from family. But business associ-
             old. But in a good way.              ates, with nothing to gain? People      "No Footprint Too Small
                Just as the Covid19 virus was     offering to help others because of    Birth and Bereavement
             beginning to change our world, I     the sudden and uncontrollable cir-    Services (NFTS) is a 501c3
             was at the VA Hospital in Omaha      cumstances? Those are special         nonprofit organization located
             for a colonoscopy screening. The     examples of the best side of          in Lincoln, Nebraska. Our mis-
             procedure was prescribed by my       humanity? Difficult times brings      sion is to provide comprehen-
             Doctor because “it’s a good idea     out the worst and the best in peo-    sive perinatal support to moth-
             for guys my age”. My age?? As it     ple. Hoarding toilet paper? Well      ers, fathers, and families who
             turned out I slipped in just minutes  that is just not cool.               are affected by pregnancy or
             before they suspended all elective      Oh, and finally, I recently saw    infant loss. We fulfill our mis-
             procedures. As I lay on the gurney   myself on a video. And yup they       sion by offering services and
             awaiting my turn a supervisor        were all right, I am getting older.   support like physical and emo-
             came in and told the nursing staff   But blessed to have had the life      tional support during pregnan-
             that “as long as he (me) was         God’s given me and count myself       cy involving a loss, funeral
             already here we’ll go ahead and      truly fortunate to be surrounded by   planning and expense assis-
             do it, but there won’t be any        such quality people. Add a subject    tance, referrals to grief coun-
             more”. Imagine if I had gone         to make this into a sentence.         selors, and hosting support        seemed to be able to provide
             through all that nasty ‘prep’ only to   As to the crisis of the moment,    groups and retreats. We also       comfort to families that had
             be told to put my clothes back on    this “virus craziness”. The Covid-    create weighted memory             lost an infant.  I can't imagine
             and go home!                         19 virus could be this generations    bears.                             how hard it must be to adjust
                A few days later out of the       greatest challenge. Certainly, it is    Some bereaved mothers            to such a loss and I feel very
             blue, another agent in my office     a significant health risk. The mass   report that they physically        good to think I can be a part
             texted me to see how we were         hysteria and fear are concerning,     ache to hold their baby. For       of providing even a little com-
             doing with this “virus craziness”    as is the immediate financial         this reason, we offer weighted     fort. The bears are not difficult
             and asked if we needed anything.     impact. But I am also seeing the      memory bears to serve as           to put together and it makes
             I wondered why she had reached       best of humanity and looking for-     therapeutic tools. Our weight-     me very happy to have a tal-
                                                                                        ed memory bears can provide
             out to me but appreciated her        ward to the huge rebound that will    families not only a meaningful     ent that allows me the ability
             concern. Then the next day in        certainly follow.                     gift in memory of their baby,      to provide this service. I like
             closing an email exchange with          Meanwhile, I will leave you with   but a gift that has the potential  that we put the baby's name
             another much ‘younger’ agent she     a fitting quote from Maya Angelou:    to offer them comfort and          and weight on them as I think
             added: “Please let me know if I      “Every Storm Runs Out of Rain.”       healing.                           it makes them more personal.
                                                                                                                           I always hope it provides at
             can help in any way with show-                                               Our weighted memory bears        least a few moments of com-
             ings /office work etc for you!”.                Bill Budler,               can be made out of sentimen-       fort to a family to know that
             Their concern touched my heart. I    Seniors Real Estate Specialist®       tal material such as a onesie,     their child was important and
             still wondered why they were          BancWise Realty 402-641-0060         baby blanket, or other special     will not be forgotten. I am very
             offering help to me.                                                       material provided by the fami-     honored to be a part of this
                As this quarantine developed,             ps:   wash your hands!        ly. NFTS is also more than         group and would encourage
                                                                                        happy to provide the material      others to give it a try.  I
                                                                                        if the requestor or recipient      believe they would find it well
                                                                                        does not wish to provide spe-      worth their time.”
                                                                                        cific material.                       Carol has given of her time
                                                                                          Each bear is filled with         and talent to provide comfort
                                                                                        either sand or rice to weigh       to dozens of families through
                                                                                        the exact birth weight of the      the bears that she creates for
                                                                                        baby. The baby's name, birth       NFTS; her unique style shows
                                                                                        date, and birth weight is then     through each bear she cre-
                                                                                        embroidered on a heart that is     ates, and the loves she puts
                                                                                        sewn onto the bear's belly.        into the bears is shown in the
                                                                                          The bear-making process is       quality of work she produces.
                                                                                        one that is filled with creativi-     We are currently in need
                                                                                        ty, intention, and emotion.        of more volunteers to create
                                                                                        Carol Brandl, NFTS weighted        our weighted memory bears.
                                                                                        memory bear volunteer,             If you know how to sew and/or
                                                                                        shares about her own experi-       embroider and are interested
                                                                                        ence:                              in learning more about this
                                                                                          “I first got started with        opportunity,
                                                                                        NFTS after talking to someone         call 402-480-6782 or email
                                                                                        at a booth at the Lincoln"
                                                                                        Women’s Expo a year ago.  I           Submitted - Jolie Vega
                                                                                        was impressed that the group
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